I Canโ€™t Afford It, But I Still Love It: Eating in NYC

The places I return to โ€” physically, spiritually, and otherwise.

New York City is changing, faster than ever, it seems. But these are a few of the places I return to โ€” sometimes physically, sometimes just in memory. Some are holdouts. Some are chains. Some are ridiculous. All of them are real to me. A combination of old and new in a city thatโ€™s constantly shifting identities.

Collage of New York City restaurants featured in the article

Nathanโ€™s Famous (Coney Island)

Iโ€™ve been going to Nathanโ€™s for as long as I can remember. My paternal grandmother lived in Coney Island, and a visit always held the promise of a stop at the flagship location on Surf Avenue. As far as Iโ€™m concerned, the Fourth of July isnโ€™t complete without the Nathanโ€™s Hot Dog Eating Contest broadcast โ€” and yes, Iโ€™ve watched every year, even when Iโ€™ve lived abroad. I even met Joey Chestnut once โ€” at a Kroger in Cincinnati, of all places. (He was lovely. Very polite. Iron stomach.)

Are the hot dogs overpriced? Absolutely. But theyโ€™re also delicious. I stopped eating pork hot dogs decades ago โ€” too pale, too rubbery, too weird โ€” so the fact that Nathanโ€™s uses all-beef kosher-style dogs (are they technically kosher? unclear) has always worked in my favor. The crinkle-cut fries are elite. The cheese fries? Divine. This place is a relic, a tourist trap, a national institution masquerading as a corner stand โ€” and I love it. Get the lemonade.


Levain

Chocolate Chip Walnut. Oatmeal Raisin. And my favorite โ€” the perennial Black and White Chocolate Chip. Decadent. Delectable. Delightful. No shade to Dominique Ansel, but Iโ€™ve never cared for the gooey treacliness of cronuts or the greasy pats of salted butter masquerading as cookies. Levain gets it right: hefty, crisp at the edges, chewy without being molten.

Anselโ€™s Double Chocolate Pecan is quite good, and Iโ€™ll give credit where itโ€™s due. But if you want a cookie fit for a queen? Go no further. Levain is the indulgence I crave when I want something truly celebratory โ€” and now, sadly, one I canโ€™t quite afford. Iโ€™m weirdly fine with that. Some cookies should be reserved for special occasions.


Katzโ€™s Delicatessen

Yes, itโ€™s touristy now. Sure, the ticket system makes me a little anxious every time. But Katzโ€™s is still Katzโ€™s. The question of pastrami or corned beef remains evergreen. Some people pretend thereโ€™s a right answer. There isnโ€™t. It matters less which option you choose than how you prepare it: get it in its original fatty state, falling apart on rye with grainy mustard โ€” it may be painfully overpriced for many nowadays, but it remains one of the most satisfying things you can eat in this city.

You donโ€™t need the โ€œIโ€™ll have what sheโ€™s havingโ€ table to feel something here. Just the fluorescent hum, the clatter of trays, the guy at the counter who slices you a sample without being asked. Katzโ€™s has personality, and a sense of humor: the last time I was there, someone had hung a framed photo of Al Goldstein eating pastrami next to the ladiesโ€™ room. I nearly choked laughing. Whoever did that? God bless.

Katzโ€™s is one of the few places in Manhattan that still feels like it operates on its own rules. Not faster, not fancier โ€” just there, pulsing with a very specific kind of New York energy. A sandwich, a Dr. Brownโ€™s, fries or maybe a knish if youโ€™re feeling bold. Itโ€™s chaos, salt, and permanence.


Shake Shack

I know what it represents: a sanitized burger chain posing as nostalgia, the poster child for gentrification served in a paper boat tray. Jeremiah Moss would spit on my crinkle fries. And yet โ€” Iโ€™ve been there, more than once. Midtown. Astor Place. Flatbush Avenue in Brooklyn. Discreetly shoving my Shake Shack bag into a zippered reusable tote for the commute home.

I recently discovered the Shack Stack: a quarter-pound of 100% Angus beef with American cheese, topped with a crispy-fried portobello crown, lettuce, tomato, and ShackSauce on a toasted potato bun. Hands down, one of the best burgers Iโ€™ve ever had. I canโ€™t deny it. Sometimes, youโ€™re too tired to resist the tide. And a $9 burger tastes like a massage feels.


Serendipity 3

I love Serendipity 3 in large part because of the Warhol connection. Itโ€™s sugary, campy, a little over the top โ€” exactly the kind of place that made sense in Andyโ€™s orbit. Legend has it he adored the Frrrozen Hot Chocolate and the lemon icebox cake. My favorites? The โ€œSummer Briesโ€ sandwich, once available only at the original East 60th Street location but now relegated to the Times Square spin-off: sliced turkey, melted Brie, sliced apples, alfalfa sprouts, raisin pumpernickel, and Thousand Island dressing. It shouldnโ€™t work. It absolutely does. Perfect for the wandering palate โ€” mine included.

The frozen drinks are as absurd as they are wonderful. The Frrrozen Hot Chocolate is the classic, but Iโ€™ll take the Frrrozen Hot Strawberry White Chocolate any day. Serendipity is like a dreamscape of unique desserts and elevated American fare. I canโ€™t afford it right now, but Iโ€™ve made peace with that. Some places, like Serendipity, should exist just outside your daily reality. Theyโ€™re not for errands. Theyโ€™re for occasions. They make you feel like youโ€™ve stepped sideways into a pastel-colored dream fueled by sugar and style.


Jollibee

I first learned about Jollibee from the late, great Anthony Bourdain โ€” which feels both extremely Filipino and extremely New York: a white guy with impeccable taste blessing the masses with a new brand of fried chicken and rice. In 2016, I made the pilgrimage to Woodside, Queens, home of the cityโ€™s first Jollibee.

That mascot alone โ€” bee, bowtie, irrepressible joy โ€” was enough to earn my loyalty. But the real magic? Chickenjoy fried chicken, sweet Jolly Spaghetti, and the crisp, golden Peach Mango Pie. I still donโ€™t understand why they took halo-halo off the menu. I mourn it like I mourn the McDonaldโ€™s chicken fajita. (Yes, Iโ€™m dating myself. I donโ€™t care.)


Economy Candy

There are candy stores, and then thereโ€™s Economy Candy. No minimalist displays. No artisanal branding. Just bins, buckets, and chaos. Itโ€™s what childhood felt like โ€” if childhood came with 2,000 kinds of sugar and walls nearly collapsing under the weight of nostalgia.

Licorice laces. Chocolate coins. Pez dispensers. Turkish taffy. Sour belts. International treats like Canadian Coffee Crisp, Japanese Kit Kats, and Milka bars (oh man, the Milka bars). The smell alone is half-sweet, half-industrial, and it sticks with you for hours. Iโ€™ve walked in with $5 and walked out with a sensory overload and at least one item I forgot I loved. Every time Iโ€™m in there, I rediscover Chuckles. Itโ€™s tied to a private joke, but I feel compelled to buy a pack anyway.

Itโ€™s cluttered. Itโ€™s dusty. Itโ€™s everything a candy store should be. A place where joy is crammed onto every surface and no one is too old for sugar. Long live this storied institution.


Taim

Taim: bright, clean, unexpectedly satisfying. I discovered this place in 2014 through a coworker and walked out converted. The falafel โ€” crisp, herbaceous, soft inside โ€” is some of the best Iโ€™ve had outside the Middle East. The cauliflower shawarma pita has the power to uplift. But my personal recommendation: The Sabich Pita. Itโ€™s not quite Sabich Frishman in Tel Aviv, but itโ€™s the best Iโ€™ve had in the U.S. And get the fries, with any of the delicious sauces.

What I love about Taim is how quietly confident it is. No trend-chasing. No overwrought packaging. Just good food made well and served fast. Itโ€™s healthy without being smug, casual without being forgettable.

In a city that sometimes confuses excess with quality, Taim is a reminder that simple can still slap.


Donut Shoppe (Shaikhโ€™s Place)

Tucked under the Q train on Avenue U in Brooklyn, the Donut Shoppe โ€” also known as Shaikhโ€™s Place โ€” is a relic of old New York charm. Its unassuming exterior hides the warmth inside, where the scent of freshly fried dough greets you at the door. The glazed donuts โ€” crisp on the outside, pillowy on the inside โ€” have a cult following, and the cheap coffee is a comforting constant in a city that never stops inflating its prices.

Cash only. The sandwiches and tacos are pretty good too. Open 24 hours, itโ€™s the kind of spot where night owls and early risers cross paths over paper Anthora cups and quiet conversation about Yankees vs. Mets. Back in 1999, I was commuting from Bergen Beach and caught my bus right across the street. The Donut Shoppe was there then, and itโ€™s still there now. Some places donโ€™t need a rebrand.


Rice to Riches

Thereโ€™s no reason this place should work. Maybe thatโ€™s the real reason people have accused it of being a front for a criminal enterprise. Itโ€™s a sleek, aggressively branded temple to rice pudding โ€” a dessert that sounds like something youโ€™d be served at some sad hospital or institution. And yet, Rice to Riches is irresistible. Futuristic fonts. Wall-to-wall snark. A menu that reads like someone dared them to make rice pudding sexy.

Coconut Coma. Sex, Drugs, and Rocky Road. Oreo โ€œGasm.โ€ You get the idea. The pudding itself? Shockingly good. Thick, creamy, borderline obscene in its richness. Dessert as performance art. Thereโ€™s something deliciously unserious about walking into a place that treats rice pudding like haute couture for the stomach. Sometimes indulgence needs to be ridiculous.


I donโ€™t know how much longer Iโ€™ll be here. But I know these places helped shape my life in this city โ€” and when I think of โ€œhome,โ€ these are some of the flavors Iโ€™ll remember.

Analog Freedom

Or, Why Iโ€™ll Never Go Fully Digital (No Matter How Many Apps I Download)

There was a big roll-top desk in our apartment when I was a child. The kind with hidden compartments. It was grandiose and weighed a ton. My mother kept it stocked like a general store for the written word: stacks of notepaper, fountain pens, rubber stamps, fat highlighters, and a roll of postage stamps nestled in one of those round brass dispensers โ€” back when stamps had to be licked. We didnโ€™t have embossers or wax seals, but we had everything else. That desk was a chapel of potential.

Photo by Ylanite Koppens via Pexels

Decades later, I am still devout, still loyal to paper and pen. Iโ€™ve spent years in sleek, paperless offices that worship at the altar of efficiency, and yet Iโ€™ve always had a notepad next to my keyboard โ€” college-ruled, cluttered with ink and marginalia.

I donโ€™t just write โ€” I equip. My desk is a quiet armory of ink: Uni-ball, Zebra, Paper Mate, Pilot, Pentel, Sharpie. I know their weights and temperaments the way a violinist knows bows. A Schneider Slider glides when I need a ballpoint. A Uni-ball Vision Elite rollerball pen is for when I need to scribble something down quickly. The Pilot G-2 in 1.0? That oneโ€™s telling bold truths. Pen choice is never random. Paper is never just paper. These tools โ€” humble, beautiful, cheap โ€” have gotten me out of bad jobs, bad relationships, and bad moods. A single scrap of paper and a decent pen can map a plan, draft an escape, or start a story. I may live in a digital world, but my soul still scribbles. This is a love letter โ€” not just to stationery, but to the physical act of committing thought to page.

I journal in composition notebooks covered in stickers; Iโ€™ve used college-ruled paper since the third grade โ€” and Iโ€™m never going back. I carry pastel notepads for work, spiral-bound notebooks for world-building and travel plans, folders stuffed with scribbled scraps. My handwriting is sharp and fast, which means I smudge a lot โ€” but that just means the thoughts were moving faster than the ink could dry. Pens are chosen with care: rollerball for journaling, ballpoint for signatures, Pilot G-2s in assorted colors for nearly everything else.

Iโ€™ve never trusted the cloud the way I trust a notebook. I print out research. I highlight in pink and yellow. The right rollerball makes the thoughts flood the page; the wrong pen makes me feel like Iโ€™ve never had a thought in my life.

This is a love letter to all these tools. Not because I reject technology โ€” I use it, rely on it, even admire it. But it will never replace the feeling of dragging pink highlighter across a printed article, or peeling a cute sticky tab from a Daiso pack to flag a sentence that made me feel something. Pen and paper are cheap, portable, analog freedom. They ask for nothing but attention. And in a world obsessed with optimization, they remind me that slow, smudgy, handwritten thought is still worth honoring.

Pen and paper donโ€™t require a password. They donโ€™t crash. They donโ€™t auto-correct my thoughts. They let me be slow and smudgy and nonlinear. And in that space โ€” somewhere between the click of a Sharpie S-Gel and the curl of a sticky tab โ€” I find something I donโ€™t find anywhere else: my actual voice.

They ask for nothing but attention.
And sometimes, thatโ€™s everything.